February is the most romantic month of the year. Our romantic and sexual balance, although still taboo in some circles, is as important as our physical, emotional and spiritual health and well-being.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, there is always room for improvement, right? So, if you think your love life is not at its best and it’s time to spice it up, use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to ignite some fire and passion. Consider these Feng Shui tips to renew, attract and welcome love and romance in your life:
1. Clutter-free bedroom. Declutter, declutter, declutter. It means, nothing under the bed, no piles of books or laundry, no bills waiting to be paid on the nightstand… Keep your bedroom open and clear so that the energy flows freely and you can sleep well, think clearly and wake up energized.
2. Mirrors. Mirrors are not recommended in the bedroom. Avoid any mirror or television that reflects the bed; if you can’t live without it, cover it with fabric when you go to sleep.
3. Ceiling beams
Beams over the bed are trouble. If they run in the length of the bed, they divide the bed and can divide couples causing arguments, separation, and divorce. If they divide the bed in the width, they can cause health issues. Covering the ceiling beams with a fabric or a canopy bed can remedy the issue.
Water features, such as water fountains, waterfalls, and fish tanks, are disruptive in the bedroom. Water can keep you from sleeping well, but also can bring extra-marital affairs, sex scandals, and substance abuse.
Avoid sleeping with your head to a wall that shares a bathroom, laundry room, kitchen or fireplace; it can cause sleep and other health issues.
Determine your Gua Number based on your date of birth and gender and check your personal favorable directions. Use the chart to find your 4 favorable directions and move your bed and headboard, preferably solid, made out of wood or upholstered, to the direction pertaining to wealth, health, relationships, or stability. If you’re a client and I have already Feng Shui-ed your home, the information above does not apply since I used more advanced formulae and analysis.
7. Fresh air and natural light
The perfect bedroom should have the right balance of Yin and Yang energy. It should receive natural light during the day and have window treatments to create a peaceful sleep environment at night. It should be aired daily, even for just a few minutes.
Select only artwork you love. Be mindful of what’s hanging in your bedroom, above and across the bed, avoid artwork depicting dark, violent, or sad scenes. This is very likely what you see before going to sleep and waking up, so opt for something inspirational and motivational, something that makes you feel good. Avoid family and friends’ pictures since you may not want to be staring at them or have them watching you in your most intimate moments of passion.
9. Connect with your bedroom
Make your bedroom personal. After all, it is your space to rest, relax and be passionate. Use colors you love avoiding red except for some small accents such as pillows. Red represents the Fire element, which is needed during the day when we are active but not at night when we slow down. Opt for Earth (beige, yellow, peach, sandy pink…) and Metal colors (white, grey, silver, gold…) that are Yin and encourage sleep.
And if you want to take Valentine’s Day one step further this year, consider going beyond the usual chocolate and flowers and do something that brings you joy and makes you feel the love! Your celebration doesn’t have to be predictable and many charities and organizations would be thrilled to have you contribute, help, work and donate.